Ever wonder who are “these women” who become Surrogates? Why would they carry a baby for someone else? Here is a Mother’s Day inspired blog shared with us from Kelly, a three time Gestational Surrogate.
I am a mother and then some.
Since 2001, I have given birth to eight healthy babies. I don’t actually have eight kids running around my house, but eight healthy embryos have flourished in my uterus over the years. Three of those were my own children and the other five grew into babies for three other families. You see, I am not just a mother but I am a Gestational Surrogate and even though I’m not the mother of my surrogate babies, with every hope their parents had, every pregnancy, every birth, every experience of placing a newborn in their parent’s arms, I relived my own journey to motherhood. As I helped others realize their dreams of becoming parents, I was continually reminded how truly amazing being a mother can be. Not just in the delivery room when your child takes their first breath but how every day you have with your child is an adventure and a blessing.
It’s important during this phase of your process to establish the foundation of your relationship with your surrogate. Here’s what I hear from surrogates about what they are looking for.
Surrogates are not looking for a new best friend. Their goal is to help you create your family and the pay-off for them is seeing you gazing at your newborn for the first time. During the process, however there are things that can help make your relationship smooth and pleasant. I always tell surrogates and intended parents that there are four things that make a surrogacy relationship work. They are trust, communication, appropriate boundaries and flexibility.
As I stare at a picture of my beautiful son who is almost 5 years old, I see a unique, one-of-a-kind human. I see the makings of a wonderful man whose constant growth astounds me. I see a child who is so much a part of my heart that it sometimes feels as if it will explode.
What I don’t see is an egg donor.
The latest Internet hero is Zach Wahls, a 19-year-old University of Iowa engineering student and Eagle Scout whose parents are lesbians.
Wahls gave a three-minute speech Tuesday before Iowa legislators urging them not to pass a constitutional amendment that would ban gay marriage and civil unions.
“This is a day we have all dreamed of and while our mission over the years has expanded to include all family types, this victory will provide the first steps at equality for our gay and lesbian families who are the foundation of our company’s history,” said Growing Generations Co-Owner Dr. Kim Bergman. “Both gay and straight families can celebrate this victory as it makes the United States one step closer to true civil rights for all of its citizens.”
“How do you feel about kids?” I asked. “I love kids” he replied. Good answer. Deal breaker number one successfully hurdled. I don’t remember asking this question on our first date. Usually, I would be more cautious, making sure not to scare away such a handsome suitor as Todd. Off limits were politics, old familial histrionics, past romances, my obsession with Elizabeth Montgomery and most certainly my extremely strong primal urge to procreate. It could have been the fact that I was just coming out of a five and a half year relationship that left me only one feeling of regret, that the time I spent nest building had turned up empty.
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Like most new dads, Noel Cabrera and Carlton Hock look forward to their first Father’s Day with twins Andrew and Erin, but say they have nothing special planned.
“We live day-to-day with the babies,” Cabrera said. “It’s a matter of just getting through the day.”
LOS ANGELES, June 14 /PRNewswire/ — The nation’s largest surrogacy agency announced today the creation of the first ever financing program for clients who are creating or expanding their families through surrogacy.
Growing Generations unique program will provide up to $100,000 in financing for qualifying clients working with the company’s surrogacy program. The loans offer competitive interest rates comparable to second mortgages or equity lines of credit.
LOS ANGELES, Feb. 16 /PRNewswire/ — The nation’s largest surrogacy agency announced today that the number of babies born to HIV-positive clients is expected to more than double in 2010 as its program for HIV-positive men using their own sperm to create embryos continues to expand in the U.S. and abroad. In 2009, Growing Generations had 5 babies born to HIV-positive parents working with surrogates and in 2010 more than 10 babies are expected.
“It is so amazing for us to see these babies being born to loving, healthy parents who have dreamed of this opportunity for years,” said Growing Generations CEO Stuart Miller . “As the first agency to create a program specifically for clients with HIV, our expertise and guidance of this process is unparalleled.”