From time to time we run into women who have the heart for third party reproduction and a great desire to help build a family through surrogacy but find themselves unable to proceed with the surrogacy process.
These women may live in states that are unfavorable to surrogacy or may not be mother’s themselves, a steadfast requirement for our surrogates.
Our surrogates tell us they are frequently asked, “How can you just give your baby away?” That sort of question, while most likely asked out of ignorance and honest curiosity with no malice intended, can leave you feeling flustered and at a loss for proper reply.
Remember that you do not have to justify your choices to anyone. If you’re uncomfortable in replying to the question you can simply tell them that you’ll manage that part of your journey as it approaches with the help of those who support you.
If you feel comfortable replying, here are a few angles that can help educate them on the process and understand your choice and mental approach to the birth.
The surrogate screening process is not something we take lightly at Growing Generations. It is very important to us that you have the best possible experience, and your surrogate is a huge part of that experience. So we help take the guesswork out of choosing your surrogate.
We screen all potential surrogates on a myriad of levels so that only the best make it through. In fact, only one percent of all applicants complete screening and go on to become Growing Generations surrogates.
Here’s a look at the process each surrogate goes through before clearing screening.
The medical cycle for an egg donor or intended mother (IM) serves the dual purpose of simulating the body to create multiple eggs at once while also managing the timing of ovulation. The goal is to create a large number of viable eggs on the same schedule of the surrogate’s best days to conceive.
The first step is to sync the donors monthly cycle with the cycle of the person who will be carrying the embryo. This is typically done with birth control pills. Next the doctor will stop the donor or intended parent from ovulating on her own. A drug called Lupron is typically prescribed to do this. The drug is administered with a small needle into the stomach. This injection is typically painless.
A current trend in the surrogacy community is for a surrogate to seek the rights to the placenta created as part of her surrogacy for the purpose of encapsulation or consumption.
With potential benefits including a quicker post natal recovery time, fewer instances of the “baby blues”, increased breast milk supply and greater energy reserves, it’s easy to understand why surrogates could be interested in this trend.
There is also a belief that, as the placenta contains high levels certain stress reducing hormones, placenta consumption can equalize a woman’s hormones more quickly after birth.
There are plenty of wonderful informative articles advising you about ways to have a successful surrogacy. What you may not find so easily are the “Don’ts of Surrogacy” for Intended Parents. That’s because there is no one right or wrong way to approach this journey of a lifetime. What works for one couple may not be at all desirable for another. With that said, here is a list of three things we’d like to encourage you to steer away from.
By the time an egg donor or IM reaches her retrieval day she very fertile and ready to have upwards of 30 eggs extracted! The idea of something coded as a minor surgical procedure can sound a little scary, but the truth is that this is a very routine in office process that is generally pain free.
The donor or IM will be typically scheduled for a morning appointment at the clinic. It is usually a good idea to arrive a bit early in order to fill out any paperwork and have time to ask any questions you may have. As you will be placed under light sedation for the procedure, you should not consume food after midnight on the day of the retrieval.
A surrogate will frequently be prescribed intramuscular injections of progesterone. The hormone is used to help aid in sustaining a pregnancy achieved through IVF and is typically given daily for the first ten to twelve weeks. The progesterone is mixed with an oil to create an injectable compound. There are several different types of oils that can be used for this process. Here’s a breakdown of the most commonly used oils for this purpose.
Ethyl Oleate- This is a type of oil you may not be familiar with. The fatty acid is created by the body when ethanol and oleic acid combine. It is, by far, the thinnest of the oil compounds for intramuscular injection. This allows for a smaller gauge injection needle.
Earlier this week Yahoo Parenting ran this story about a man living with an HIV positive diagnosis. This man is also a father through surrogacy. That breakthrough was made possible through the use of our HART program.
Here are a few frequently asked questions about the program.
What is HART? HART stands for HIV Assisted Reproductive Technologies. Growing Generations has developed a cutting edge approach to assisted reproductive technologies combined with laboratory testing and preventative medications so HIV+ men may have the chance to become parents.
Plenty of women considering surrogacy assume that having the ability to conceive easily on their own is a surrogate mother prerequisite. In fact, many women desiring to become surrogates tell us their ease of conception is one of the reasons they feel most confident in their ability to conceive as a surrogate. While it can be helpful if a woman was able to easily conceive her own children, it is not necessarily an indication that her body will lend itself well to surrogacy.