You may know Dr. Kim Bergman as the co-owner of Growing Generations and Fertility Counseling Services but did you know that she writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice?
She is an expert in her field and has taken that expertise to a great website, Kids in the House (kidsinthehouse.com), where she has a series of videos that visitors can view to gather information on various topics associated with assisted reproduction, surrogacy and same sex parenting.
One of Kim’s most popular videos is about Overcoming the challenges of same-sex parenting.
In a groundbreaking decision June 26, the European Court of Human Rights ruled in two cases that France must recognize the parental relationship of parents who have genetically related children via surrogacy in other countries.
According to our colleague, French attorney Caroline Mecary, the ruling, which applies to all 47 member nations of the Council of Europe, means that French children born abroad via surrogacy will receive passports and French identity cards and will be able to request certificates of French nationality. Mecary says the adoption of children born of surrogacy by the non-biological parent also is expected to be easier.
So much has happened during the first half of the year and I’d like to give you an update on what we’ve been up to.
- Just this month, in time for Father’s Day, three different pieces involving surrogacy hit the web. First, The Desert Sun ran a story (print/online) entitled, “Gay men looking to surrogacy for children”. Growing Generations co-owner Stuart Bell and GG Surrogate Lorisha McFarland were quoted.
It’s important during this phase of your process to establish the foundation of your relationship with your surrogate. Here’s what I hear from surrogates about what they are looking for.
Surrogates are not looking for a new best friend. Their goal is to help you create your family and the pay-off for them is seeing you gazing at your newborn for the first time. During the process, however there are things that can help make your relationship smooth and pleasant. I always tell surrogates and intended parents that there are four things that make a surrogacy relationship work. They are trust, communication, appropriate boundaries and flexibility.
As I stare at a picture of my beautiful son who is almost 5 years old, I see a unique, one-of-a-kind human. I see the makings of a wonderful man whose constant growth astounds me. I see a child who is so much a part of my heart that it sometimes feels as if it will explode.
What I don’t see is an egg donor.
The latest Internet hero is Zach Wahls, a 19-year-old University of Iowa engineering student and Eagle Scout whose parents are lesbians.
Wahls gave a three-minute speech Tuesday before Iowa legislators urging them not to pass a constitutional amendment that would ban gay marriage and civil unions.
“This is a day we have all dreamed of and while our mission over the years has expanded to include all family types, this victory will provide the first steps at equality for our gay and lesbian families who are the foundation of our company’s history,” said Growing Generations Co-Owner Dr. Kim Bergman. “Both gay and straight families can celebrate this victory as it makes the United States one step closer to true civil rights for all of its citizens.”
“How do you feel about kids?” I asked. “I love kids” he replied. Good answer. Deal breaker number one successfully hurdled. I don’t remember asking this question on our first date. Usually, I would be more cautious, making sure not to scare away such a handsome suitor as Todd. Off limits were politics, old familial histrionics, past romances, my obsession with Elizabeth Montgomery and most certainly my extremely strong primal urge to procreate. It could have been the fact that I was just coming out of a five and a half year relationship that left me only one feeling of regret, that the time I spent nest building had turned up empty. Read more at: theafa.org
Like most new dads, Noel Cabrera and Carlton Hock look forward to their first Father’s Day with twins Andrew and Erin, but say they have nothing special planned.
“We live day-to-day with the babies,” Cabrera said. “It’s a matter of just getting through the day.”