Will Your Donor Develop Attachment?
Choosing to use an egg donor to help create your family is a choice that can come with a lot of questions. The question of whether or not the egg donor will want to meet with the child that results from her donation is frequently asked. Rest assured that, in nearly all cases, the resounding answer is no, they will not.
For most donors, the detachment starts before the donation is even scheduled. Many of our egg donors tell us they do not feel attached to the eggs they will be donating in a maternal or possessive way. In fact, many donors tell us they experience a total disconnect from the eggs. The common sentiment seems to be one of, “These are eggs that I wouldn’t be using on my own. It’s OK to donate them to a loving family.”
Another point to remember is that donors do not go into this process blind. By the time you select them, they will have been screened thoroughly by a number of people, all of whom are interested in protecting everyone’s best interests. Donors go into the process with the goal of donating something priceless, so walking away from those eggs is usually met with satisfaction and achievement as opposed to attachment or regret.
All Growing Generations’ egg donors are extensively screened for any potential markers of developing attachment. While we can never guarantee how a person may feel at the conclusion of their donation, we can tell you that in over 20 years we’ve never heard of one of our donors regretting her choice.
If you have specific questions or concerns about a potential donor, feel free to address them with your case specialist.