Donor Diaries: Omega


Egg donation is an indescribable experience. The only way to really understand it is to experience it. At least that’s how I see it.

I decided to jump into the egg donation world full-force when I was in college. I had a friend who was going through the process, and I felt like I had always known deep down that this was something I would do if given the chance. I figured knowing her during that period of her life was my open door to do something life changing.

The entire process was just so smooth and easy. Honestly, the entire experience was easier than I thought it would be. I found it enjoyable, actually. When asked the hardest part of my process, I have to say it was making time to do the medical follow up after my retrievals. If that was the hardest part, then that is really saying something.

I am so happy to have been a part of changing the lives of the families that I was able to help out. I don’t believe that IVF allows doctors to play “God” as some critics may suggest. I believe “God” gave us the people and intelligence to build this medical technology and make miracles realities.

The financial aspects of egg donation were not a consideration for me when I entered into the process. In the end though, it made a hugely positive impact on my life. I have been able to put myself through school, pay off some debt, and most significantly, I was able to pay for a family member’s cancer care.

Egg donation is life changing in so many ways. Because of egg donation I was able to help a family feel whole. Because of egg donation I was able to help a family member with cancer and further my career. For me, egg donation was physically, emotionally, and mentally changing in such a positive way.

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for intended parents, surrogates and donors. She is the co-owner of Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the book, Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Conari Press 2019) as well as the children's book You Began as a Wish (Independent Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. She has two adult daughters.