Egg Donor Considerations

Egg donors invest a minimal amount of time in exchange for the gift of helping someone else have the family they otherwise would not be able to create. The compensation is also a motivating factor for many donors. But before you jump in to egg donation with both feet, there are a few key aspects that you should consider.

Medical Process

Donating eggs is a process that is only achievable with some amount of medical intervention. Once you’re matched with intended parents you will begin a medical cycle that will last roughly three to four weeks. During that time you’ll be asked to make and keep several appointments as well as take medication on a regular schedule. These medications are administered in the form of at least one, and in some cases multiple, shot(s) that you give yourself on a daily basis. The medications will direct your body to produce a high number of eggs. Additional medicines will be given the day before retrieval in order to direct your body to ovulate.

While these medications are rarely painful and often cause no side effects, some donors tell us they have experienced mild cramping and bloating as part of the process. Before deciding to become an egg donor you should make sure that you’re committed to taking the medications and keeping the doctor’s appointments, as well as prepare for any potential side effects that you may experience.

Psychological Impact

Most of our egg donors tell us that they are satisfied knowing that their eggs will be lovingly received and used to help create a family. While others have concerns over how their eggs will be used or how the children may be raised. Note that you may never know whether your donations resulted in a live birth, and that you are unlikely to ever meet any children who are born.

It is important to openly discuss your reasons for wanting to become an egg donor as well as any concerns you have about the long term impact of donation during the screening process.

Finances

A first time egg donor can expect to receive $10,000 and a repeat donor will earn $12,000. Considering the impact this amount of income will have on your life before signing contracts can help you better prepare for the journey.

You may have additional questions or concerns that you’d like to discuss before signing contracts. We want you to know that those questions are OK. We encourage you to ask them. Going into egg donation with a full and clear picture of the process and the impact it will have on your life will help ensure a better overall experience for you.

 

Updated 7/17/18

Dr. Kim Bergman

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the upcoming book, Your Future Family: An Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Red Wheel Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. Her two daughters are in college.