Myth: Egg Donation is Easy Money

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Many egg donors are motivated by a healthy mixture of altruism as well as personal gain. While they indeed do want to do a good deed and help a family grow, they’re also very interested in what this process could mean for them. It is no secret that egg donation often comes with an attractive compensation plan, and that often leads to the misconceptions that egg donation is easy money.

First things first, it is perfectly acceptable to be interested in the compensation that comes along with egg donation. You do not need to feel guilty about admitting that the financial gain is a motivating factor to becoming an egg donor. However, this is not an “easy” money process. Becoming an egg donor means subjecting yourself to an in depth application and screening process which will include submitting to blood tests and psychological testing.  

If you do complete the application and screening process successfully, that still is no guarantee that you’ll be getting paid anytime soon. Before an egg donor can earn any compensation she must first be chosen by an intended parent or pair of intended parents. This process can take anywhere from a few days to many months. Entering into egg donation with the assumption that a paycheck will be in your hands in a matter of weeks is simply a misconception.

Once chosen to help a family, an egg donor will have to undergo a strict medical protocol that includes making and keeping a series of regularly scheduled doctor appointments as well as the administration of many medications. These medications serve to stimulate your body to produce an increased number of follicles so that your forthcoming egg retrieval procedure will be as successful as possible. This also means that, while you’re on medications, your body will be incredibly fertile. Due to this, you’re often asked to abstain from intercourse until after your egg retrieval.

At the end of the experience nearly all of our donors report feeling validated, affirmed, and overwhelmingly positive about their experience as an egg donor. The process is richly rewarding in a variety of ways. However, it does entail sacrifices and inconveniences to the donor. If you can accept and thrive despite these short term hardships, then egg donation may indeed be a great choice for you, even if it’s not the “easy money” that it is occasionally misunderstood to be.

Dr. Kim Bergman

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the upcoming book, Your Future Family: An Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Red Wheel Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. Her two daughters are in college.