I got into egg donation as a way of “giving back” to the universe after using donor sperm to create my own child.
When it comes to the injections, the fear is really the worst part. The actual injections are so mild on the pain scale. In fact, if you get the angle just right, sometimes you can’t feel them at all. Continue reading
Many egg donors are curious about what will happen to their eggs following their donation. While you probably expect that your eggs will be fertilized in an attempt to create as many viable embryos as possible, you may not realize that not all of those embryos will be used.
Egg donors will often not know what happens to their eggs following their donation. While an intended mother will occasionally carry the donor egg in her own uterus, in many cases a donor’s eggs will eventually be transferred into the uterus of a surrogate.
With surrogacy, a woman carries a child to term and then relinquishes the baby to the intended parent(s) upon delivery. There are two main types of surrogacy: traditional and gestational. Here’s a look at how the two types differ.
For me it wasn’t a question of, “Why be an egg donor?” so much as a question of, “Why NOT be an egg donor?” I remember watching fertility issues become a regular occurrence in the media and thought, “I’m a healthy woman, I have good genes, and who knows if I’ll ever want my own kids, so why not give the gift of life?” In total, I’ve donated two times.
Once I was matched with intended parents, I moved onto the medical process. The truth is that those injections are really no big deal. I don’t have a problem with needles, so it was a simple, painless portion of my evening that was over in just 5-10 minutes. Easy.
I’ve donated eggs twice, both times for the same intended parents. So, in essence, I started a family, then added to it. The children in this family are biologically related, they’re siblings, because of me. I believe that “you get what you give,” in this world. Someday I’ll need to use donor sperm to make my family, so donating my eggs seemed only fair.
The most memorable part of being an egg donor was injecting the hormones into my belly and thighs. It wasn’t bad, though! You count to three and zap! You just feel a little pinch and that’s all. Maybe, with the belly injections, it burns a little for a few seconds, but it’s honestly no big deal. In fact, I’d say the only down side to the whole thing was mild pain and bloating after the egg retrieval.
I’ve donated eggs a lot. In fact, I don’t quite remember how many times I’ve done it! It’s either four or five. The truth is, once I realized there was a need for donated eggs, I couldn’t think of anything greater than helping a family grow. So I started donating eggs and didn’t stop for quite a while!
It makes me giggle to hear that people think hormone injections are scary. You just pick a time in the evening, prepare the mixture, and pull out a pinch of belly or thigh fat and poke! It’s over just like that. No big deal.
Many egg donors feel great pride with their decision, and will ultimately choose to share their choices with their children. Whether you have children at the time of your donation, or plan to tell your future children of your donation, finding a way to explain something so scientific to such a young mind can feel challenging.
I will never forget how I felt when the request came in. I was a first time egg donor and, after doing a plethora of research, had decided I knew exactly what to expect of every step in the egg donation process. From the medication cycle to the retrieval and even the potential impact on my life after the donation- I was prepared for everything.
But then I found out that the people who wanted my eggs to help make them a family, they wanted to meet me.
Egg donation is an indescribable experience. The only way to really understand it is to experience it. At least that’s how I see it.
I decided to jump into the egg donation world full-force when I was in college. I had a friend who was going through the process, and I felt like I had always known deep down that this was something I would do if given the chance. I figured knowing her during that period of her life was my open door to do something life changing.
Making the choice to become an egg donor can be overwhelming. The moment you begin searching for the right agency to partner with you can feel flooded with choices.
It is crucial to find and work with only reputable agencies. These are the agencies that will be up to date with federal and state regulations as well as have strong relationships with fertility centers, IVF doctors, and surrogacy agencies.