The Donor Diaries: Kim
When it comes to egg donation, the easiest part for me was deciding to say yes! I started by simply realizing I just met the criteria to be an egg donor, and figured, “why not?” I loved the science of it and how so much love and so many families can be made from such a simple decision. So I filled out the application and jumped in headfirst!
The process itself was easier than I was expecting. Just as simple as my decision to donate in the first place. There are appointments and medicines, but it’s nothing that can’t be managed.
Perhaps the hardest part of my decision was that, as this is a new science, there aren’t many studies on the long term impact of donation. Since my donation I’ve gone on to have healthy pregnancies and children of my own with no obvious impacts as a result of the donation, and I feel good about the future.
Anyone who knows me knows that I have done this. This, of course, leads to a few stereotypes here and there. There are people who think the hormones I took will give me cancer someday and people who think I should feel guilty for the siblings my own children will never meet. But, for me, there are no worries. No regrets. I look at it as helping someone else plant their garden. I don’t miss those flowers once they bloom, the seeds were never really mine.
Having become a mom myself, I find that I am more and more proud of my decision to donate. Now that I have children of my own, I have a deeper understanding and compassion for the gift that I gave to someone else. Egg donation is not for everyone, but thank goodness it is for some people.