The Donor Diaries: Kristin

177253851-2corbisChoosing to be an egg donor was a decision that I arrived at easily. I actually made the decision at 13 after reading an article while on an airplane. I remember thinking that was such a cool thing to do, and putting it on my back burner. In my 20’s I had developed a love of shopping and had a need for some debt relief. I stumbled across an ad for egg donors and everything just made sense.

I remember thinking that this was such a cool thing to be doing, and sharing the news with friends and families. The process leading up to the retrieval was so simple and the procedure was a breeze. The immense sense of pride and gratification at the end of that short procedure is overwhelming.

A lot of people want to shy away from talking about the financial aspects of egg donation, but I don’t. The benefit that my donations have provided for me have been life changing. I was able to pay off debt and later travel abroad for six months because of the financial freedom that donating gave me.

But it wasn’t all about the money. I also helped create families. It’s pretty surreal to see the faces of children who have come from my genetic makeup. It’s inspiring to know that something that has given me so much opportunity has also given those families endless joy and love.

I ultimately spent a decade donating eggs- a total of six times. While I am retired from donating now, it was a time in my life that changed who I am as a person and it’s a choice I remain passionate about. Having had the opportunity to change lives, both my own and those of the families I have helped, is an awe inspiring thing to have done with your life.

Dr. Kim Bergman

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the upcoming book, Your Future Family: An Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Red Wheel Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. Her two daughters are in college.