The Matching Process

The process of matching with Intended Parents begins the instant your profile is uploaded to our online database. As soon as your information is live, all intended parents currently seeking a donor will receive an email alerting them that a new donor has been uploaded.

Some donors find that they are selected in a matter of days or weeks from profile publication. Other donors will have a much longer wait. A longer wait in no way reflects your desirability as a donor. Intended Parents are often seeking very specific traits in their donor and can be very picky in their selection processes. We ask our donors to be patient as they wait to be chosen.

Once your donor profile has been chosen, you will receive an email or a phone call from Growing Generations inquiring about any potential blackout dates you may have for retrieval. We ask that you respond to this email or phone call within 24 business hours. Once your availability has been accepted by the Intended Parents, and we have the necessary paperwork and funding in from the parents, you will be introduced to your Case Specialist. This person is a Growing Generations employee who will be with you for the rest of your donation process.

The next step is the screening and paperwork phase. Your first screening is a psychological screening that will be completed in-person. This may occur locally to you or at the clinic where your retrieval will take place. Once your results have been reviewed and accepted by the intended parents, you’ll move along to your medical screening.

The medical screening will be completed at the clinic where your retrieval will take place. In most cases, this screening does require some travel.

Finally, once both clearances have been issued, you’ll be given a legal referral. This allows the legal team to begin contacting you to draft the contracts between yourself and the intended parents. Once this contract is signed, you are considered matched and ready to move forward.

Please note that you will not be given information about the family who has chosen your profile. You will be allowed to ask about their family type (gay/straight, married/single) and if they reside internationally or within the United States, but that is all of the information that is typically shared. In rare cases, the intended parents may ask to meet you, usually over a video call. If this is the case, you will be compensated $250 for your time.

We like to stress to our donors the importance of providing quality photos in their online profiles. These images are the first look Intended Parents will have of you, and will thus play a large role in their first impressions. Clear, high quality photos are important. Equally important are well thought out answers to the essay question portion of your profile. Properly formatted grammar and appealing photos tend to help donor profiles be accepted more quickly.


*Revised 5/7/18

Dr. Kim Bergman

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 22 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for the last two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society of Reproductive Medicine, the American Fertility Association, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 28 years and their two teenage daughters.