Will Egg Donors Develop Attachment?

One of the most common questions potential egg donors ask us is, “Will I feel an emotional attachment to the baby resulting from my donation?” This concern is one that is echoed by those learning that you’re planning to donate your eggs. Rest assured that this is a normal concern and feel secure in the knowledge that, with few exceptions, the resounding answer is no, you will not.

For most donors the detachment starts before the donation is even scheduled. Many of our egg donors tell us they do not feel attached to the eggs they will be donating in a maternal or a possessive way. In fact, many donors tell us they experience a total disconnect from the eggs. The common sentiment seems to be one of, “These are eggs that I wouldn’t be using on my own. It’s OK to donate them to loving couples.” While the genetic makeup will be uniquely yours, most donors tell us they do not feel ownership over that DNA.

Another point to remember is that you do not go into this process blind. By the time you are matched with a family you will have been screened thoroughly with a number of people, all of whom are interested in protecting your best interest. You go into this with the goal of donating something priceless, so walking away from those eggs is usually met with satisfaction and achievement as opposed to attachment or regret.

Growing Generations staff will work hard with you through your screening process to determine if you’re a person who may experience an emotional attachment. Keep in mind that egg donation is not ideal for everyone, and you may not be an ideal candidate if you do feel like you’d experience extreme anxiety at the idea of a genetic relation to you being out there in the world.

Do know though, that none of our egg donors have reported feeling regret at their decision in the years to come.

Teo Martinez

Teo Martinez is the CEO of Growing Generations, a surrogacy and egg donation agency headquartered in Los Angeles, CA. Educated at both UCLA and Pepperdine University, and with over 15 years of experience working in assisted reproduction, Teo’s background makes him one of the most experienced and accomplished professionals in the field.