Watching my cousin struggle with fertility was heartbreaking. Fertility came so easily to me, and watching her miscarry time and time again really kind of made me mad. I felt like she deserved to be a parent so much. Before I even knew what surrogacy was, I offered to carry her child. It wound up that she didn’t need my help, but at that point the seed was planted.
I started doing some research and ultimately wound up applying with Growing Generations. I was so excited to jump in and help someone start a family. But it turns out, surrogacy isn’t always what you expect it to be. Continue reading →
The arrival of your medical and transfer calendar is a big day. It outlines what medications you’ll take leading up to your embryo transfer as well as what day your targeted transfer will take place. However, many surrogates find themselves confused as to what takes so long to create this calendar. Here’s a look at how the process works.
The first thing to understand is that calendars can not be created until every other requirement has been met by you and your intended parents. Continue reading →
The days and weeks following a failed transfer can be a tough time emotionally. It can be difficult to understand how the transfer failed when the embryos looked great and your uterine lining was perfect. While science has evolved to give us incredible insight into pregnancy and IVF technologies, there is still an element of chance. Success rates of pregnancy through IVF are good, and can even be great, but they are not absolute. Failed transfers can and do happen. This does not mean that you will never achieve pregnancy or that it’s a lost cause to continue trying. Continue reading →
Yeast infections are common and impact millions of women every year. Even so, many women will experience their first yeast infection, or potentially her first outbreak of several yeast infections, during her surrogacy journey. According to the American Pregnancy Association, the second trimester of pregnancy represents the time in a woman’s life where she is most likely to experience a yeast infection. Continue reading →
Many surrogates find themselves wondering why their intended mother needs their help. One potential cause stems from prolonged or advanced Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, PCOS for short.
This condition is actually quite common. Doctors estimate that as many as 10% of all American women in childbearing years suffer from the condition, and suggest that as many as half of those women may not even know they have it. Continue reading →
Well, we did it! The ride is over, folks! And two perfect little babies are now in the arms of their adoring parents because of this ride. Here’s a look at our birth story.
We started watching my blood and laboratory panels around 37 weeks as a precaution. We had no reason to do this beyond just standard of care with my OBGYN, but, we found my blood pressure to be higher than it normally is for me and my blood platelets to be slightly lower than they normally are for me. I wasn’t near a pre-eclampsia diagnosis at all, but given the sliding numbers and the fact that we had made it to full term, we decided that it’d be best to induce a labor and have the babies now, as opposed to giving my body the time and opportunity to allow something to go wrong.
Many surrogates will go on to pump breastmilk for the baby they carried once he or she is born. The good news is that, unless you have international intended parents, the breast milk expression does not have to stop once the baby and family return home. Through the use of dry ice and expedited shipping, many surrogates are able to pump and ship breast milk for an indeterminate time. Here’s how it works. Continue reading →
Packing for the birth of a surrogate child is vastly different from packing fr the birth of your own child. It’s kind of silly, isn’t it? I mean, not much has changed. You’ll still show up at the hospital in “I don’t care WHAT I forgot to pack” condition, you’ll still have the baby, and you’ll still wind up with something to wear home. Even so, planning for and packing that bag, no matter how many times you’ve done it for the births of your own children, makes most surrogates feel like first timers again.
Here are a few of the differences that stand out to me the most.
Not like the USA Today paper, but like legally binding court documents types of papers. I think with my own girls I showed up for the birth with a paper insurance card (because I think they were paper back then) and maybe a five spot in my wallet.
Every mom-to-be will be peppered with the same question for nine months straight, “When are you due?” With less than 5% of babies being born on their actual due date, a baby’s birthday is anyone’s guess. New research performed by The March of Dimes offers a hint into just how long an expecting mother, or her surrogate, may be waiting to give birth.
A woman’s jou rney up until transfer day focuses on the development of her lining. Doctors consider how thick it has become, if a triple stripe pattern is present, and if there is any fluid in the uterine cavity. But on transfer day everything shifts. The emphasis now becomes the quality of the embryos. On transfer day you may hear a new term: “Embryo Grading.”
Embryo grading is a tool developed to answer the frequently asked question, “How healthy do the embryos look?” Unfortunately, the answer may as well be delivered in a foreign language. IVF is likely very new to you, and being told that the embryos are a 2.5 may do little to nothing to answer your original question.
Embryo grading is assigned based on several factors, the first being the day in which the grade is given. Grades are typically delivered on either day three or day five of growth. Given the fact that how the embryo is growing differs drastically from day three to day five, the method for grading differs as well.