Tubal ligation, commonly known as having one’s “tubes tied” is a common form of permanent birth control in the United States. While the procedure does boast an impressive success rate at avoiding pregnancy in most instances, the procedure has no impact on a woman’s ability to be a successful surrogate. Here’s why.
Surrogacy is an emerging discipline that pairs the innovation of science with the heart and soul of human compassion. As a result, it is no surprise that the media loves to report on it. This is an emotional process that highlights the awesome ability of science, the incredible compassion of the human race, and for some, the ethical issues than can arise if this process goes wrong. Continue reading
Egg retrieval, embryo creation, embryo transfer. These are the parts of the embryo process that most surrogates are familiar with. It is not at all uncommon for more embryos to be viable for use than are needed. The result is that these embryos are often frozen and kept for potential future transfers. Understanding what goes into the freezing of an embryo can be awe-inspiring.
My choice to become a surrogate predates not only the births of my own children, but also my marriage! When I was about 18 or 19 I saw a documentary on surrogacy. It was so moving! It touched something in my heart and in my soul and I just knew that one day I would do this. So, when I met the man I would eventually marry, I told him within month of us dating that this is something I wanted to do one day when I knew I was done having children of my own. He thought it was a little crazy, but cool, and that was that.
After I had each of my girls, the feeling inside me to be a surrogate grew more intense. The emotion involved with giving the feeling of having a child of your own to someone grew tremendously both times. So, almost 8 years later, I told my husband that it was time to really pursue surrogacy. He was all in.
You will be entitled to reimbursement for a variety of things during your surrogacy journey. While the entire reimbursement process and covered expenses are outlined in your financial handbook, here is a basic break down of the process for quick reference.
What is Covered
For the most part, reimbursements will apply to your travel experiences. When you travel for screening, matching, transfer, invasive procedures, or court hearings, you will be entitled to a number of reimbursements including a daily food allowance, lost wages, and childcare expenses. These expenses will have a maximum, which can be found in your financial handbook or by asking your case or financial specialist.
The matching phase is one of the most exciting times in your surrogate journey. Many surrogates have long dreamed of the individuals they will help become a family and are very excited to move through the profile exchange process. We are often asked about what elements should be included in the profile you create. Here are a few tips that can help you create a profile that showcases who you are and how awesome your family is!
Take Your Time
The best thing you can do is slow down. We understand that this is exciting and that the more quickly you create your profile the more quickly you can be matched. However, as you will often be reminded, surrogacy is a marathon, not a sprint. Continue reading
During your initial application and screening process we will be asking you for a lot of information. Part of this process involves you granting us access to your insurance information, typically by providing us with your online insurance login and password. We understand that being asked to share this information can seem scary, and that you may have some initial concerns as to why we’re asking you for this information.
It is not uncommon for your personal health insurance policy to cover your surrogate pregnancy. Choosing to use your own health insurance for surrogacy represents many benefits including a significant cost savings to your intended parents.
If you choose to use your personal insurance for your journey, you will still be asked to fill out an application for New Life Agency, NLA, a surrogacy-specific insurer used by many of our surrogates. Continue reading
I am a three time surrogate. I’ve brought 4 little lives into this world and, as beautiful as my first two journeys were, I want to talk about my last one; my swan song.
I was having a bit of a challenging time finding a new family to help, after working with the same family for my previous 2 experiences. Then I met a new Growing Generations’ case specialist who said she had someone perfect for me. There was a catch though; they lived in China and spoke very broken English.
When my husband and I met the intended mother at the match meeting, the language barrier was a little awkward for everyone. Even so, I could tell that she was a lovely person. Everyone is a little nervous at match meeting, and you want to make the best impression. This woman was animated and kind during the conversation, and I didn’t need to speak the language to know that. Continue reading
Around 26 weeks gestation every single pregnant woman ever to live must submit to the form of torture known as the gestational glucose tolerance testing. This ancient form of torment includes stomaching a 10 ounce bottle of sugary sweet syrup in under 5 minutes (chug, chug, chug!) and then keeping it down for an hour. Then, a quick and simple blood pull tells you whether or not you have come down with gestational diabetes.
Okay. Okay… it’s not torture. At least not for me. I actually kind of like the orange flavored syrup. It reminds me of High C- orange punch from McDonalds when the mix is a bit unbalanced and you get a tad more syrup than water. Yum. I really can’t comprehend why so many pregnant women make such a big deal over it.
The real torture comes later… Continue reading