Well, we did it! The ride is over, folks! And two perfect little babies are now in the arms of their adoring parents because of this ride. Here’s a look at our birth story.
We started watching my blood and laboratory panels around 37 weeks as a precaution. We had no reason to do this beyond just standard of care with my OBGYN, but, we found my blood pressure to be higher than it normally is for me and my blood platelets to be slightly lower than they normally are for me. I wasn’t near a pre-eclampsia diagnosis at all, but given the sliding numbers and the fact that we had made it to full term, we decided that it’d be best to induce a labor and have the babies now, as opposed to giving my body the time and opportunity to allow something to go wrong.
Many surrogates will go on to pump breastmilk for the baby they carried once he or she is born. The good news is that, unless you have international intended parents, the breast milk expression does not have to stop once the baby and family return home. Through the use of dry ice and expedited shipping, many surrogates are able to pump and ship breast milk for an indeterminate time. Here’s how it works. Continue reading →
Packing for the birth of a surrogate child is vastly different from packing fr the birth of your own child. It’s kind of silly, isn’t it? I mean, not much has changed. You’ll still show up at the hospital in “I don’t care WHAT I forgot to pack” condition, you’ll still have the baby, and you’ll still wind up with something to wear home. Even so, planning for and packing that bag, no matter how many times you’ve done it for the births of your own children, makes most surrogates feel like first timers again.
Here are a few of the differences that stand out to me the most.
Not like the USA Today paper, but like legally binding court documents types of papers. I think with my own girls I showed up for the birth with a paper insurance card (because I think they were paper back then) and maybe a five spot in my wallet.
Every mom-to-be will be peppered with the same question for nine months straight, “When are you due?” With less than 5% of babies being born on their actual due date, a baby’s birthday is anyone’s guess. New research performed by The March of Dimes offers a hint into just how long an expecting mother, or her surrogate, may be waiting to give birth.
A woman’s jou rney up until transfer day focuses on the development of her lining. Doctors consider how thick it has become, if a triple stripe pattern is present, and if there is any fluid in the uterine cavity. But on transfer day everything shifts. The emphasis now becomes the quality of the embryos. On transfer day you may hear a new term: “Embryo Grading.”
Embryo grading is a tool developed to answer the frequently asked question, “How healthy do the embryos look?” Unfortunately, the answer may as well be delivered in a foreign language. IVF is likely very new to you, and being told that the embryos are a 2.5 may do little to nothing to answer your original question.
Embryo grading is assigned based on several factors, the first being the day in which the grade is given. Grades are typically delivered on either day three or day five of growth. Given the fact that how the embryo is growing differs drastically from day three to day five, the method for grading differs as well.
I am a two time surrogate, meaning I’ve completed two surrogate pregnancies. For me, surrogacy did more than create three new little lives, it completely changed my own life as well.
I knew going into surrogacy that I was going to change a family’s life, but I never imagined how much that act would change mine. That realization came shortly after I delivered my first surro-babes; a set of boy/girl twins. Continue reading →
Tubal ligation, commonly known as having one’s “tubes tied” is a common form of permanent birth control in the United States. While the procedure does boast an impressive success rate at avoiding pregnancy in most instances, the procedure has no impact on a woman’s ability to be a successful surrogate. Here’s why.
Surrogacy is an emerging discipline that pairs the innovation of science with the heart and soul of human compassion. As a result, it is no surprise that the media loves to report on it. This is an emotional process that highlights the awesome ability of science, the incredible compassion of the human race, and for some, the ethical issues than can arise if this process goes wrong. Continue reading →
Egg retrieval, embryo creation, embryo transfer. These are the parts of the embryo process that most surrogates are familiar with. It is not at all uncommon for more embryos to be viable for use than are needed. The result is that these embryos are often frozen and kept for potential future transfers. Understanding what goes into the freezing of an embryo can be awe-inspiring.
My choice to become a surrogate predates not only the births of my own children, but also my marriage! When I was about 18 or 19 I saw a documentary on surrogacy. It was so moving! It touched something in my heart and in my soul and I just knew that one day I would do this. So, when I met the man I would eventually marry, I told him within month of us dating that this is something I wanted to do one day when I knew I was done having children of my own. He thought it was a little crazy, but cool, and that was that.
After I had each of my girls, the feeling inside me to be a surrogate grew more intense. The emotion involved with giving the feeling of having a child of your own to someone grew tremendously both times. So, almost 8 years later, I told my husband that it was time to really pursue surrogacy. He was all in.