Can I Be a Surrogate if I Needed IVF?


The idea that using IVF to achieve your own pregnancies disqualifies you from becoming a gestational surrogate is a common misconception about surrogacy. Many women believe that only those who have achieved pregnancies with little to no struggle will be qualified candidates for gestational surrogacy. The truth is that, because pregnancies achieved through gestational surrogacy are the result of In-Vitro Fertilization (IVF), having prior IVF experience can actually be a benefit for you.  

Women who are already familiar with IVF enter surrogacy with established expectations. While their personal medical protocol may differ from what they’ll experience as a surrogate, these women understand the medications and how to administer them. For our doctors, a woman who has had a successful pregnancy and birth as a result of IVF exhibits known success with the procedure. While no doctor can predict how medication will respond in the future, these women are able to show evidence that their bodies have responded favorably to IVF medications in the past.

The crucial element is that your body is able to conceive, carry, and birth a healthy baby. How the pregnancy was achieved is not nearly as important.

Women who have used IVF prior to becoming a surrogate tell us that their previous experiences allowed them to navigate surrogacy with less stress than they suspect they would have had if they were unfamiliar with IVF processes prior their journey as a surrogate.

If you have additional questions about your own pregnancy record and how it could impact your potential as a surrogate, feel free to reach out to one of our admissions specialists or complete our online surrogate application.


Revised 5/15/18

Dr. Kim Bergman

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the upcoming book, Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Conari Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. Her two daughters are in college.