The matching phase is one of the most exciting times in your surrogate journey. Many surrogates have long dreamed of the individuals they will help become a family and are very excited to move through the profile exchange process. We are often asked about what elements should be included in the profile you create. Here are a few tips that can help you create a profile that showcases who you are and how awesome your family is!
Take Your Time
The best thing you can do is slow down. We understand that this is exciting and that the more quickly you create your profile the more quickly you can be matched. However, as you will often be reminded, surrogacy is a marathon, not a sprint. Surrogacy is also something you’re likely to only go through once or twice. It’s important to get a great match, because you won’t have a ton of opportunities to “get it right next time.” Taking your time while creating your profile will help create a more thorough picture of your personality than if you rush through it. Offering a better, more complete look at who you are is a great first step towards a strong match.
Think it Through
Before you begin writing the answers to the profile questions, read them and really think about them. Aim to give full, heartfelt answers. Try to avoid one word replies or even one sentence answers. Providing thoughtful, complete answers is perhaps the best first gift you can give to intended parents.
Be True To Yourself
If you like to travel, talk about your favorite place to visit. If you’re a big fan of extreme couponing, brag about your best buy. Whatever it is that makes you YOU, show it. Remember that these intended parents have often waited years to meet their surrogate. They’re excited to learn about you. Trying to write “conversationally”, meaning writing in a way that is similar to how you would speak, is a great way to let these IPs feel like they’re really talking with you. Feel free to brag about your kids and what you like about being a parent. Let your sense of humor shine through. Whatever you do, don’t try to paint yourself as what you think an intended parent would want in a surrogate. You will be paired and working together for a long time, it’s easiest for everyone if you are honest about who you are, and who you’re not, from word one.
Choose Your Photos with Purpose
When choosing your photos make sure to pick photos that show you in your natural state. The photos don’t need to be formal or professional, in fact some of the best photos are the ones you snap on your phone while you’re just out living life. If you’re having a hard time deciding between photos, your admissions specialist would be happy to help you narrow it down.
As we all know, first impressions matter. You’re introducing yourself to complete strangers and saying, “Trust me to help make your dream come true.” Taking the time to use correct spelling and grammar goes a long way in helping to paint you as the intelligent, well spoken, and responsible woman we already know you are. If you need help, it is perfectly acceptable to ask.
This IS an exciting stage. It’s supposed to be fun. While all of the above steps are important, don’t forget to have fun while writing your profile. Let your personality shine through.