Starting A Return Surrogacy

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Many surrogates enjoy their journey so much that they come back for a second, third, or even fourth experience. Returning surrogates sometimes will work with previous intended parents to create a sibling for a previous child, or may instead rematch with new intended parents.

The reapplication process looks very similar to the first experience. In most cases someone from Growing Generations will reach out within three to four months of your previous delivery to see how you’re doing and if you’re interested in moving forward with a new journey. If you’re ready to return, or if you previously said no but have changed your mind, feel free to reach out to your previous case specialist on your own. 

Growing Generations staff will review your previous journey to make sure you’re able to move forward. Sometimes changes in residency, medical history, or other life situations can cause a delay or denial of future journeys. You’ll also need to mention any new tattoos or if you’re currently pumping breast milk as these things can delay a future journey.

If you are eligible, we’ll invite you to begin the screening process again. This process will be identical to your first screening process. You will need to fill out an application and insurance paperwork, as well as complete an in person medical and psychological screening. This is true even if you intend to work with your previous intended parents.

You will be directed to create a new profile, if desired. Many surrogates working with previous IPs do not elect to revisit their profile. This is an opportunity to explore what you’re looking for in a new match and if any of your matching preferences have changed since your first journey.

Once we have your completed profile, insurance information, and updated benefits package, we can move on to the matching phase. If you’re returning with previous intended parents this means a simple video conference call to discuss your new contract. If you’re looking for a new match, then the matching phase will look like it did for your previous journey.

We are so excited to welcome surrogates back for a new journey. If you have additional questions about returning, feel free to reach out to our admissions team or your previous case specialist at any time.


Revised 10/29/18

Dr. Kim Bergman

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the upcoming book, Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Conari Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. Her two daughters are in college.