Surrogacy for VIP Couples

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When a surrogate learns that she is being considered to carry for a VIP client, she generally will have a lot of questions and, more often than not, a few assumptions about these potential intended parents.

Perhaps the most common first thought is, “Is it someone famous?” While it can be true that you are about to be asked to carry for a celebrity, it could also be the case that the profile you’re about to receive is that of an everyday person. Not all VIP profiles are that of celebrities, and not all famous intended parents will wind up as VIP clients.

Understand this: the one thing that all VIP cases have in common is that they are all a bit outside of the box. Every VIP is different and has different requirements.

In general, a VIP client will be one with needs that fall a bit outside of standard protocol. These clients are often leaders in their fields and, while they may not have face recognition for you, would for others in their industries. They’re often seeking additional confidentiality requirements in their surrogacy agreement.

Desired constraints of VIP clients can range from very strict to non-existent. Some VIP clients will request that no photos be taken and that no names or identifying information be shared with anyone (sometimes including your own family members).

Many clients from Asia, specifically China, will seek out a VIP relationship and journey. In these situations a Client Service Coordinator may be asked to attend the birth in order to translate between the intended parents and the surrogate.

Finally, if you do choose to consider a VIP client, know that you may not receive a traditional “profile” of the couple. These clients are not required to fill out our traditional intake profile. In place of the traditional questionnaire with photos, you may receive a simple letter from the IPs instead. This letter is like a profile, containing a few photos of the intended parents, and introduces the surrogate to the client in their own words.

Many VIP clients will be seeking a surrogate with a clean pregnancy history, a low BMI, healthy lifestyle, and a clean personal, legal, and medical background. Often these clients are looking for women who may have college degrees, are established in their fields, or active in their communities.

Carrying for a VIP couple can be challenging, but it can also be exciting. If you have additional questions about what it means to carry for a VIP client, do not hesitate to reach out to your Admissions Specialist at any time.

Dr. Kim Bergman

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the upcoming book, Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Conari Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. Her two daughters are in college.