Surrogate Travel Restrictions

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Choosing to help create a family by becoming a surrogate is a decision that will undoubtedly come with some level of personal inconvenience to your family. While the concessions that you’ll be asked to make are likely quite minor, it’s a good idea to educate yourself on these potential limitations before moving forward.

Perhaps the largest inconvenience you’ll be asked to make revolves around your personal travel plans while pregnant. While the imposition date and mile radius is unique to each surrogate and intended parent team, as a general rule our surrogates legally agree to not travel more than 50 miles from their delivery hospital once they reach 24 weeks gestation.

Once you reach 24 weeks gestation the fetus that you will be carrying is considered to have a viable chance at survival if labor and delivery were to happen. This means that it is important to keep you near the hospital that is expecting you and your unique birth plan in the circumstance that you do go into premature labor.

 

Surrogacy laws differ from state to state, so it is equally important to ensure that you stay within the state where you live and intend to deliver once the pregnancy is viable. Being forced to deliver in a neighboring state could create a great deal of unnecessary legal hurdles for you and your intended parents.

Because of varying surrogacy laws and medical conditions, most surrogates are asked to postpone any international travel for the entire process.

We do understand that from time to time it may not be realistic to stay within the confines of your contract. In these instances exceptions may be possible with prior written consent from your attending physician, your intended parents, and the Growing Generations staff.

Your individual travel restrictions and allowances will be discussed at match meeting as well as in your legal contracting phase. You should ask question or outline and potential everyday hardships that these standard limitations may cause for you in your everyday life. Ultimately the choices that are made during these phases will be outlined in your legal contract and will be binding once signed.

While travel restrictions may seem very imposing, remember the larger picture. You’re an inspiring woman embarking upon the journey of a lifetime. Before you know it you’ll have given a deserving parent(s) a baby, a family, and the loss of travel freedom will seem a small concession in exchange.

 

Revised on 4/17/18

Dr. Kim Bergman

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the upcoming book, Your Future Family: An Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Red Wheel Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. Her two daughters are in college.