The Match Meeting

DVP0784070Once you have accepted a profile, your information will be sent to the intended parents for review. They are generally given 48 hours to make a decision to accept or decline your profile. In the exciting event that they accept, you will move forward and schedule your match meeting.

Your case will be submitted to the case specialist who the intended parents have been working with since becoming Growing Generations’ clients. This individual will reach out to you within a few days of profile acceptance to ask for your availability in scheduling the match meeting, which is likely completed from your own home over a video conference.

Video Conferencing

  • In most cases, you will be asked to free up an hour of your time to meet via teleconference from your home. You will be emailed a link and password for the video conference in the days preceding the match meeting. In the event of a video match meeting, we recommend the intended parents to meet with you in person either before, or at the time of embryo transfer. Sometimes there are special exceptions to this recommendation, your case specialist will discuss this with you.

In Person

  • On rare occasions you may be asked for your availability to travel (if needed) to one of our office locations, generally in Los Angeles or West Virginia. This visit generally includes an overnight stay, unless you reside on the west coast. You will be eligible to receive reimbursement for your food, lost wages, and childcare costs.

The content of the match meeting will remain the same whether you meet in person or via video conference. A facilitator will review several key items of importance including thoughts on reduction, number of embryos to transfer, and communications preferences with you and lead you through a guided conversation about expectations. The process is intended to be a laid back encounter serving as a low stress introduction to one another.

At the close of the meeting, we ask each party to consider the match one more time. If you still wish to move forward, or if you wish to not confirm the match, we ask that you let your Case Specialist know within 24 hours. If you confirm the match, we move forward to the legal phase. If you decide to decline, you are sent back to our matching specialist who will begin working with you to find a new profile to consider.


*Revised 10/29/18

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for intended parents, surrogates and donors. She is the co-owner of Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the book, Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Conari Press 2019) as well as the children's book You Began as a Wish (Independent Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. She has two adult daughters.