Tips for Talking About Surrogacy

Talking about surrogacy with strangers is a reality of your journey. Even though you are excited about your choice, there may be others who are either uninformed about the process or who disagree with your belief system. Know that these discussions will become easier as the weeks progress. Here are a few pointers for talking surrogacy with strangers.

Be Confident

It has been said that if you stand for nothing, you’ll fall for anything. Surrogacy is no exception. It’s okay to be proud of your decision and to assert your beliefs. Confidence is attractive to people. When people see that you are well educated and firm in your choices, they’re more likely to respect them.

Take Emotion out of The Equation

It is incredibly difficult to talk reasonably with someone who is fueled by emotion. It is important to understand that some people may have opinions that differ from yours. Reacting to those opinions defensively or emotionally is unlikely to move the conversation forward in a productive way. If you want your story and logic to be clear, remove negative emotions from your arguments.

Knowledge is Power

The more information you have about surrogacy, the more information you will be able to share with others. Given that most judgments and prejudices come from lack of information, arming yourself with as much knowledge as possible makes you a walking ambassador for surrogacy.

Know When to Walk Away

Finally, it is important to know when to walk away. There will always be people who disagree with you and who can not be made to see your point of view. Sometimes the classiest thing you can do is concede defeat and change the subject.  As long as you are proud of your choices, you can have a successful journey.

Teo Martinez

Teo Martinez is the CEO of Growing Generations, a surrogacy and egg donation agency headquartered in Los Angeles, CA. Educated at both UCLA and Pepperdine University, and with over 15 years of experience working in assisted reproduction, Teo’s background makes him one of the most experienced and accomplished professionals in the field.