It is our belief that very few people are outwardly mean or seeking to offend or hurt those around them. Even so, and especially in situations that are difficult emotionally, people will often make comments from a place of ignorance and with the best of intentions that wind up being unintentionally hurtful. With that in mind, here’s a brief list of a few things you may want to avoid saying to someone living with infertility, or who needs the help of a surrogate for other reasons, in order to make their family dreams a reality.
Stop trying so hard.
This phrase is often the little brother of, “Just relax, let it happen naturally,” and can be quite infuriating to those struggling with infertility. Understand that, Continue reading →
As you prepare to embark upon your egg donation or surrogacy journey, it is incredibly common to question how your family will function once your new baby arrives. Pondering the potential connection with a child that does not share your genetics is an emotional hurdle many intended parents must face before they move forward.
Understand that a family is created from the same four components no matter what the family structure is. These components include: Continue reading →
RESOLVE, the National Infertility Association, reports that one in 8 U.S. couples of childbearing years will experience some level of infertility in their quest to create a family. Add to that the rising costs of infertility testing, diagnosis, treatment and In Vitro Fertilization and it starts to become clear why more and more couples are starting to get creative about ways to fund their future families.
As of 2016, just 13 states had laws on the books that require insurance companies to pay for infertility related claims, leaving the majority of Americans facing infertility staring down the barrel at mounting costs. In fact, RESOLVE estimates that the current cost of a single IVF cycle is well over $12,000. Continue reading →
Beginning to take charge of your fertility means exploring all of the things that could be causing you hardship in attaining pregnancy. One of those things is Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, PCOS for short.
An incredibly common affliction of American women, some doctors estimate up to 10% of all American women suffer from PCOS. Doctors estimate that as many as 50% of women who have PCOS may not even know they have it. PCOS is believed to be the most common cause for female infertility in the USA today. Continue reading →
Learning that your embryo transfer did not result in a positive pregnancy test can feel devastating. The doctor said your embryos were perfect, your surrogate’s uterus was perfect, and you were sure the result would be a successful, perfect pregnancy. It is completely normal and understandable to be met with grief, shock, and disbelief when things don’t go as planned. Continue reading →
The arrival of your medical and transfer calendar is a big day. It outlines what medications your surrogate will be taking leading up to embryo transfer as well as what day the targeted transfer will take place. Here’s a look at how the process works.
The first thing to understand is that calendars cannot be created until every other requirement has been met by you and your surrogate. All medical tests need to be completed, all accounts need to be adequately funded, and all legal paperwork needs to be finalized. Once all of these have been taken care of, you’ll need to also have decided on an egg donor or, if you’re using your own eggs, and IVF cycle and retrieval date for yourself. Continue reading →
Embryos are tiny, delicate things. As such, the transfer process is often conducted with great caution and preparation. This caution can often cause surrogates to be quite concerned about how to best protect the embryo they’ve been entrusted with carrying. It is normal for intended parents to feel some degree of concern, too. In fact, many will raise the question of how secure the embryo is once placed in the uterus, and if it’s possible that the embryo could “fall out.” Continue reading →
Many of our US-based Intended Parents choose to have their surrogate continue to express breastmilk for their child long after they’ve returned to their own homes. The beauty of expedited shipping allows surrogates to pump and freeze breastmilk, package it, and have it arrive right on your doorstep before it ever thaws. Utilizing this option allows intended parents to give their child breastmilk and all of the positive benefits that come along with it. Continue reading →
Once your embryos have been created your first question to the doctor may be, “How good do the embryos look?” The answer you receive is typically referred to as the embryo’s “grade.” For many intended parents, the answer might as well be delivered in a foreign language. IVF is likely very new to you, and being told that your embryos are a 2.5 may not do much to answer your original question.
Embryo grading is determined by several factors, the first being the day in which the grade is given. Grades are typically delivered on either day three or day five of growth. Continue reading →
It is very likely that you will have embryos remaining at the conclusion of your journey. Most intended parents will choose to freeze these embryos until they can decide what to do with them. In many cases, a time will come when you are certain that your family making process is complete, yet you will likely still have unused embryos to consider. While it is entirely possible that you could continue to pay the annual fee to retain these embryos, other families choose another route: embryo adoption. Continue reading →