Breaking The Language Barrier


International parents may find themselves feeling a bit of anxiety over developing a relationship with their surrogate when there is such a clear language barrier to overcome. We understand that the gap in miles, cultures, and languages can seem insurmountable, but these differences don’t have to be a challenge. Growing Generations has a communications team in place to help bridge these gaps.

The desire to grow a family isn’t exclusive to English speakers or US Citizens. As such, Growing Generations keeps multi-lingual employees on staff in order to cater to the world market. At any given time you’re likely to find someone who is able to speak fluent Italian, French, Catalan, Mandarin, Cantonese, and Malay ready to help you.

This means that you are able to have a clear and open means of communication with both staff and your surrogate. Growing Generations staff will facilitate milestone calls as well as any other time a party requests a verbal call.

Don’t feel limited to only speaking to your surrogate though. Through free and easily available services like Google Translate you are able to trade Emails and Skype messages with seamless integration.  Of course if there is a particularly sensitive subject we are again happy to help translate written communication as well.

Additionally, Growing Generations is lucky enough to have a pool of surrogates who are multi-lingual themselves. Whenever a surrogate who speaks additional languages is cleared for matching we will work hard to try and match her with intended parents who also speak that language, so long as other important preferences align as well.

As a final thought, try not to let distance and language barriers detour you from using a surrogate that may not share your customs or tongue. We often find that many of our international matches come away from the journey with a greater world view and excitement for the new culture they’ve had a change to embrace.

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for intended parents, surrogates and donors. She is the co-owner of Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the book, Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Conari Press 2019) as well as the children's book You Began as a Wish (Independent Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. She has two adult daughters.