The desire to create a family is not unique to coupled adults. Those without a significant other or spouse also feel the call to parenthood and will often need to seek out a surrogate to do this.
Moving through the surrogacy process with Growing Generations as a single intended parent is a process very much like moving through it with a partner. You will still create a profile, progress through screening and matching, select an egg donor, and hopefully, end up with a child. Continue reading
For many parents of children born through surrogacy or donor genetics, the choice to tell the story of their child or children’s conception is a tricky subject to navigate.
Most parents of adopted or third party conceived children tend to ask themselves the same questions, including:
- How do I talk to people about my family?
- How will I talk to my child about their origins?
- Will my child be OK without a mom/dad?
- Am I doing my child a disservice through my choices?
- Will they consider me their “real” parent if they know the truth?
- Will my child be OK if we’re not biologically related?
Preimplantation Genetic Diagnosis, commonly known as PGD, is a series of tests that are commonly offered in conjunction with your IVF cycle. These tests can be used to identify and diagnose potential chromosomal abnormalities in embryos before they’re ever transferred to a waiting uterus. This can greatly reduce selective termination in the event an abnormality is found later in the pregnancy. Continue reading
Packing your bag for the hospital can be just as stressful for intended parents as it can be for surrogates. In many cases, this is the intended parent’s first trip to the hospital for childbirth. It is important to feel comfortable and prepared on your big day, but packing your hospital bag can leave you feeling a bit perplexed over what items are most important to take. It may make things easier if you break your packing down into two subgroups: labor & delivery, and recovery.
Labor & Delivery
Paperwork- While it is generally the surrogate’s responsibility to bring all of her medical and legal paperwork with her to the hospital, she may be incredibly distracted during labor and forget to grab it. Continue reading
Of all of the things you will need in order to have a successful surrogacy journey, the most important of them all is an open, trusting relationship with your surrogate.
Trust is a mutual gift that you share with each other.
A healthy relationship stems from clear and articulated expectations. Boundaries are also an essential component of any relationship, including the surrogacy relationship. It is completely appropriate to talk with your surrogate and agree upon how much and what kind of communication you both want. Continue reading
In the case of male-male couples, surrogacy presents a very real possibility that one father may not have a biological link to the child that is ultimately born to him. This can happen as a result of one intended father opting to not contribute his DNA, or as the result of the transferred embryo having been fertilized by the other intended father’s DNA. In these cases, it is normal to wonder, “Will I still bond with a child that I have not fathered?”
Many of our Intended Parents will choose to have their genetic samples analyzed. This test, commonly called a genetic profile, is compiled following a simple blood or saliva draw and highlights if the genetic contributor is a carrier for any potential genetic diseases or disorders. Here’s a look at a few of the conditions the profile is able to detect.
HELLP Syndrome is a rare condition that can affect pregnant women during their late second or third trimesters. HELLP syndrome is named for the things it does to a woman’s body:
H- hemolysis ( breakdown of red blood cells)
EL- elevated liver enzymes (liver function)
LP- low platelets counts (platelets help the blood clot).
Surrogacy is a very rewarding experience, but it can also accelerate stress on an already troubled relationship. From time to time, we have surrogates who wind up experiencing a separation or divorce during their surrogacy journey. This situation is not favorable, but it can happen. The end of a marriage can impact the surrogacy journey differently depending on the person, with no two cases unfolding in an identical manner. Continue reading
Whether you use an egg donor or not, the goal of the medical cycle preceding egg retrieval is simple: create as many high quality, usable eggs as possible.
Following the egg retrieval procedure, these eggs will go through a series of phases including fertilization and growth. You are likely to lose one or more eggs, now embryos, at each step over the next several days. This is normal, it’s why the goal is to collect as many quality eggs as possible at the onset of the process. By the time you reach day 5, 6, or 7, you are likely to be left with only a handful of high quality embryos. Continue reading