Preparing For Your Surrogate Baby’s Arrival

babyproof-618x360You are having an exhilarating journey through your surrogate pregnancy and you are eagerly awaiting the arrival for your little one. One important and exciting part of waiting for your new baby is making your home a happy and welcoming place. This is a great activity to keep you and your partner occupied, especially during the last trimester when you may be feeling a little impatient for the baby’s arrival.



One of the first things you will want to do to make your home newborn-ready is to give the place a thorough cleaning and disinfecting. While you’re doing this, you can go through room by room and take a look at things with a baby’s eye view. Lock up any medications or hazardous chemicals, remove any small objects that a young child may be able to swallow, and figure out which drawers, cupboards and spaces your child may be able to get into once he or she begins to move around.


Preparing Meals

You may want to consider cooking some meals in advance and storing them in your freezer. Once your baby has arrived you’re going to be very busy and cooking nightly meals will be one thing you don’t have to worry about, leaving you more time to focus on your newborn and your changing family dynamics.

Prepare Your Hospital Kit

When the big day arrives, you will want to be sure that you have everything you need to bring your baby home safely. Make sure you have your baby car seat installed and his or her going home outfit and a warm blanket packed. If you are traveling, make sure you have everything you need for an overnight stay or long trip.

There is a lot you can do to get your home ready for a new infant. Preparing for you baby’s arrival is a great way to help pass the time until the due date and give you the confidence that your home will be a safe environment for your growing child.

Dr. Kim Bergman

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the upcoming book, Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Conari Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. Her two daughters are in college.