What is the Relation Between an Egg Donor and the Child Conceived with Her Egg?

Providing full-service egg donation and surrogacy services since 1996, Growing Generations has spent years working to make it safer, easier and more enjoyable for individuals, couples, surrogates and egg donors interested in this life-changing process. Although the egg donation process is fairly common in today’s society, we commonly receive questions regarding the relation between an egg donor and a child conceived via egg donation.

Do Babies Conceived Via Donor Eggs Resemble the Donor?

Babies who are conceived from donor eggs will carry the DNA of the donors and thus display similar features. Given that the child will resemble the egg donor, intended parents often select donors based on physical attributes, such as eye and hair color, as well as ethnicity. Many intended parents also will select an egg donor based on her educational background or personality, with the hope that the offspring will match some of their non-physical characteristics.

Legal Relation of Babies Born Via Egg Donors

From the beginning of the egg donation process, the names and contact information of egg donors remain anonymous. Only in rare instances, where both parties agree to reveal their personal information, do intended parents communicate or meet with their egg donor.

Carefully drafted contracts between egg donors and intended parents state that egg donors have no parental rights over the offspring that result from their donations. Unlike in surrogacy, where a surrogate knows personal information about the individual or couple she is helping, the intended parents will remain anonymous to the egg donor. The only information she is provided is a family type (gay/straight, married/single) and where that family resides − either internationally or within the United States.

You can find even more information about Growing Generations’ egg donation program on our FAQ page.

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for intended parents, surrogates and donors. She is the co-owner of Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the book, Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Conari Press 2019) as well as the children's book You Began as a Wish (Independent Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. She has two adult daughters.