Social Media Refresher For Intended Parents

As technology changes, it gets more difficult to imagine how our social life functioned before the advent of sites like Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat. Today’s ever-present availability of information on the go keeps most of us on our toes and plugged in at all times. It will be no different for you as you move through your surrogacy journey. Here are a few considerations you should make as it relates to sharing your experiences with the world.
As an intended parent, you’ll need to consider social media and your surrogacy on two levels. First, you will want to give dedicated thought to what you’re comfortable sharing with your network, and then you’ll also want to consider what you’re comfortable with your surrogate sharing with her networks.
One thing we all know is that once it’s on the Internet, it never really goes away. Cached web pages, Facebook sharing of posts and screenshots are all things that can make a deleted comment permanent. For this reason, it’s incredibly important to think twice and post once.
Before sharing belly photos sent to you by your surrogate, or other photos of your surrogate, you may want to be clear on her comfort level with her images, symptoms, silly stories, or other personal information being shared. While most surrogates are more than happy to have these images and notes shared, it is important to be clear on her boundaries.
Additionally, your surrogate may want to share photos of her with you or belly photos within her own network. By sharing photos of you together, your surrogate is able to help explain to her network that she’s helping a real person. This can greatly help your surrogate’s support network understand her motives. It’s important to consider what of your personal information you’re comfortable with sharing. Perhaps you’re OK with your surrogate sharing images with friends and family, but not with her entire social network. All levels of comfort are acceptable, but they just need to be honestly and clearly expressed.
Not only do you need to give careful consideration to any privacy requests you should also consider how the surrogate would feel reading your posts. Even if you’re not Facebook friends, it is entirely possible for posts to circulate and find unsuspecting eyes. Surrogacy is incredibly intimate and personal. If you wouldn’t say something to the other party in person, it is best left unsaid in a public forum.
Perhaps the best bit of advice to bear in mind is, “When in doubt, ask first.” If you plan to blog or Facebook post about your journey, plan to make that a point of discussion during your matching process. Later in your journey, you can direct these questions can to your case specialist.

Teo Martinez

Teo Martinez is the CEO of Growing Generations, a surrogacy and egg donation agency headquartered in Los Angeles, CA. Educated at both UCLA and Pepperdine University, and with over 15 years of experience working in assisted reproduction, Teo’s background makes him one of the most experienced and accomplished professionals in the field.