Surrogacy Books for Kids

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Using a surrogate to grow your family presents you with interesting decisions to make as your child grows up. Most importantly, will you tell them a surrogate was used? If so, how do you address the subject with empathy and approachability?

If you do decide to share the origins of your child’s birth with them, there are a variety of children’s books available that can help explain a highly scientific procedure in terms a young child can understand.

Many of these titles are aimed directly at the intended parents, while others are aimed at surrogates and their families. Using titles from each point of view can help your child begin to understand their story and shine a light on the woman who played a role in their birth.

Some suggested titles include:

You Began as a Wish by Kim Bergman, PhD

Hope & Will Have A Baby: The Gift of Surrogacy by Irene Celcer

(Irene Celcer has a series addressing various topics, all called Hope & Will Have a Baby, but with subtitles such as “The Gift of Sperm Donation” and “The Gift of Egg Donation.”)

Sacha, the Little Bright Shooting Star by Sofia Prezani

The Kangaroo Pouch: A Story About Gestational Surrogacy For Young Children by Sarah Phillips Pellet and Laurie Faust

The Very Kind Koala: A Surrogacy Story for Children by Kimberly Kluger-Bell

Why I’m So Special: A Book About Surrogacy with Two Daddies by Carol Lewis Long

Stork M.I.A. by Sandro Issack

Daddy Dog and Papi Panda’s Rainbow Family: It Takes Love to Make a Family by Anthony Hale

The Baby Kangaroo Treasure Hunt by Carmen Martinez Jover

Dr. Kim Bergman

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the upcoming book, Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Conari Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. Her two daughters are in college.