What is a Sibling Project?

Many of Growing Generations’ intended parents return for a second surrogacy journey. This return, referred to as a sibling project, is something we are always very happy to help with. Here’s a look at how the process of returning to expand your family progresses.

In most cases, our team will not initiate first contact with you for a sibling journey. Occasionally, your surrogate may reach out to us with interest in doing a second journey with her previous intended parents, and in those cases we may reach out to you to see if you have interest in participating. Outside of this circumstance, we generally will wait for intended parents to contact us.

Once you indicate your interest in returning and retain our services, we will begin moving forward. If you are using your previous surrogate, you should be aware that she will need to re-screen as if she were a first time surrogate, and you will still have a match meeting. This screening often comes as a surprise to our returning intended parents, as your surrogate was already screened by the time you met her in your first journey.  Rest assured, we follow the ASRM and Reproductive Specialist protocol, ensuring that your surrogate is still a great choice to carry your next baby.

If you choose to match with a new surrogate, it will be much like your first journey in which a surrogate will review/approve your profile and then you will have the opportunity to review/approve hers. You’ll also be asked to update your intended parent profile if you choose to work with a new surrogate, as you now have more children than you previously did. You’ll receive an estimated wait time for match from your case specialist as you did previously.

Once your match is confirmed, you will receive a funding request from the finance department. Just as with your first journey, we will begin moving forward with legal once your account is fully funded. You will need to sign a new contract regardless of whether you choose a new surrogate or to use your previous surrogate a second time.

There are very few differences for you from one journey to the next. If you have additional questions about returning for a sibling journey, you can reach out to your previous case specialist.


Revised 5/15/18

Dr. Kim Bergman

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the upcoming book, Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Conari Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. Her two daughters are in college.