Surrogacy for HIV-Positive Intended Parents

Growing Generations has offered it’s surrogacy program to HIV positive men since 1996. Since that time, more than 100 babies have been born safely to HIV-positive parents. In the more than 4,000 births of children born to an HIV-positive parent using their sperm to create embryos, there have been no babies or gestational surrogates that have tested positive for HIV as a result of the surrogacy.

Prior to collecting the sperm used to create an embryo, the HIV-positive sperm contributor must have had at least six months of an undetectable viral load (<48) and be on a stable medication regimen which has not been changed during that time period.

Once the sperm donation has been collected it is medically washed as an additional safeguard before being used to create the embryo. Due to the medical “cocktail” of drugs that most HIV-positive patients take as well as the undetectable viral load, the chances of an HIV transmission to the person carrying the pregnancy or to the newborn are incredibly rare.

The entire process of banking sperm for use in egg donation and/or surrogacy can be completed within 1-3 months depending on the patient’s viral load count. Growing Generations will be with you every step of the way during this time, always available to answer any questions you come across during your journey. Surrogates who choose to enter into this program are informed and aware of any additional tests or medications she may need to take along the way as a precaution.


Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for intended parents, surrogates and donors. She is the co-owner of Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the book, Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Conari Press 2019) as well as the children's book You Began as a Wish (Independent Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. She has two adult daughters.