Why Social Apps Aren’t Great for Finding Surrogates & Donors

Technology has changed the way we live. You can shop for homes, book travel plans, order dinner, and pay your bills all without leaving home. Then there are the dating sites that make it easy to browse for a mate simply by “swiping right” when someone catches your eye. This phenomenon has now gone beyond the dating world and has found its way into assisted reproduction. While “swiping” is a fun concept, it might not be the right way to find your future egg donor or surrogate.

Growing Generations completely understands why these apps and programs would appeal to intended parents. It’s quick and easy to sign upand typically free. In a matter of hours, you can go from considering egg donation or surrogacy to staring at hundreds of faces of hopeful women all vying to help you create your family. This approach is fast, simple, and non-intrusive.

The Benefits of An Agency

The very ease of access that makes these apps appealing is the very reason we do not advocate for their use. When you retain the services of a respected agency, you gain access to a pool of top-notch, screened women. Every one of our approved surrogates and egg donors goes through a strenuous application and an initial screening. This safeguards everyone involved. With this method, we greatly decrease the chances of finding a donor or surrogate that seems perfect at first glance but is ultimately unfit for the job.

Additionally, when using an agency, the surrogates and egg donors who you’ll be presented with are not just “window shopping.” They’ve talked with us extensively. We’ve looked into their medical history, financial and criminal backgrounds, and motives for wanting to do this. We’ve ensured that everything about them lines up to make them ideal for your journey. We know that they’re serious about helping, and they’re ready to go. When you find your match through an agency, there is less wasted time even if it feels like it takes a bit longer to get matched. 

Working with an agency is like hiring a bodyguard to safeguard your emotional and financial interests. When you work with us, you are represented by professionals who have seen it all, done it all, and helped to create thousands of families already. You benefit from their experience and commitment to comply with ethical standards.

Becoming a surrogate or egg donor is a big decision. Women who are serious about this choice are likely to seek out the help of a professional agency. Pairing with these women to create or grow your family is an equally big decision for you. These life-changing choices deserve a team of dedicated professionals to help ensure that the process goes smoothly. It’s worth the time and administrative overhead to do it right.

When you’re ready to take that first step, we’re here and ready to help.

Read more about how to find a surrogate.

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for intended parents, surrogates and donors. She is the co-owner of Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the book, Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Conari Press 2019) as well as the children's book You Began as a Wish (Independent Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. She has two adult daughters.