LIFE-CHANGING & FULFILLING
Turning Dreams of Family into Reality
Surrogates are a vital key to helping individuals and couples build and grow families of their own. When you choose to become a surrogate and carry someone else’s baby we’re going to be with you and take care of you throughout your surrogacy journey.
BENEFITS OF BEING A SURROGATE
Working with Growing Generations
Once you become a surrogate, everything we do is designed to ensure your surrogacy is a rewarding experience. We want you to feel supported and cared for along the way.
A surrogacy experience built on safety and quality backed by 25+ years of expertise in the field of assisted reproduction.
While money isn’t the sole motivator for being a surrogate, we’re proud to offer one of the highest-paying surrogacy compensation packages available.
Our surrogates are among the top 2% of our applicants.
We are here to guide you through the surrogacy journey by anticipating your spoken and unspoken needs
WORKING WITH GROWING GENERATIONS
Steps to Become a Surrogate
Help Create a Family
If you’re considering becoming a surrogate to help create or expand a family, here are the requirements.
Rewarding on All Levels
A surrogate’s compensation package is about more than pay. It’s about trust, and ensuring you have what you need, when you need it.
Creating the Magic of Family
When you choose to become a surrogate and carry someone else’s baby, you’re making dreams come true.
Your Questions Answered
Becoming a surrogate is a big step
You probably have some questions. We have answers. Here are answers to some of the most frequently asked questions about being a surrogate and the surrogacy process.
Have More Questions?
Why should I choose Growing Generations (GG)?
We know that surrogates have many agencies to choose from. And without you, none of what we do is possible. Helping you to assist someone in fulfilling their dreams of becoming a parent through surrogacy is the easy part. At Growing Generations, our surrogates are our clients too, and we aim to deliver an experience that you’ll treasure for the rest of your life. To learn more about the client experience you can expect from GG, follow this link here: The Values and Philosophy of GG.
When should I tell people in my life about my plans to become a surrogate?
We feel it is important to have this conversation with your immediate family and friends once you decide to proceed with surrogacy. It is especially important to discuss it with those you hope to have as your support system during your journey. Here is some great advice on When & How to Announce Your Surrogacy News. Another great resource: Surrogacy Books for Children.
Why would someone choose to have a surrogate?
Intended parents choose surrogacy for a variety of reasons. But they all have one thing in common: a strong desire to have or expand their family. During your matching process, you’ll learn more about the family we think will be a great match for you and what led them to surrogacy. Read more about why some intended parents choose surrogacy here: Why Women Choose Surrogacy.
Will I get to meet the IPs?
Yes. We facilitate the majority of our match meetings via video conference. Technology has evolved greatly, and your intended parents can be virtually present throughout the process if they are not able to be in person. You will eventually meet your intended parents at either the embryo transfer, an ultrasound visit, or at the time of the delivery. Check out what to expect here: The Match Meeting.
How do you choose an IP for me?
Our matching team has more than 20 years’ experience in surrogacy. We listen! We take your thoughts and expectations for your surrogacy journey and try to find intended parents that we feel are a good fit.
What factors are important when considering a surrogacy match?
We match our surrogates and intended parents based the expectations they each have. We have open discussions and ask many questions of surrogates and intended parents to understand what’s most important to both you and suggest matches accordingly.
Do you screen the intended parents?
Each intended parent has a consultation to ensure we can fulfill their expectations. Growing Generations does not work with every intended parent that contacts us, but we do our best to help anyone who has a strong desire to become a parent. Once admitted to the program, each intended parent undergoes a criminal background check as well as a medical screening.
What if the intended parent(s) change their mind?
It has never happened with any of our families, but this is a common question! The funny thing is that many intended parents ask about surrogates wanting to keep the baby, and many surrogates want to make sure the intended parents are going to take their baby home! So, one fear sort of cancels the other out. But let’s just say it did happen, then we would work with an attorney to find the baby a loving adoptive family.
Will Growing Generations still be there to support me after the delivery?
Yes. We are a family, and we will always be here to support you and answer any questions you have. In fact, we have many surrogates who return to our program for a second and sometimes third journey!
Will I have contact with my intended parents after the baby goes home?
This will depend on what you and the intended parents agreed on at your match meeting and in the contract.
Will I use my eggs as a surrogate?
No. Growing Generations only works with gestational surrogates—this means the embryo will be created with a donor’s egg or the intended mother’s egg.
How long does the surrogacy process take from start to finish?
We aim to move things along as quickly and safely as possible. Most Surrogates finish their surrogacy in 18 months (from initial application to delivery), but we encourage you to prepare yourself for up to two years. Check out this Rough Timeline for Surrogates.
After I apply to become a surrogate, what happens next?
Once we receive your application to become a surrogate mother, you will be invited to schedule a consult with one of our admissions specialists, who will go over the entire process with you and answer all your surrogacy questions. For a more in-depth look, see here: Surrogate Screening Process Part 1.
Will I have to travel?
Most likely. We do require that all surrogates complete medical screening at the IVF clinic their intended parents have chosen. All costs associated with the trip are covered by Growing Generations. In addition to your surrogacy screening, you will likely need to travel for each embryo transfer. You can find the details on the second half of our surrogate screening process here: Surrogate Mother Screening Process Part 2.
Where will I give birth?
Typically, surrogates will give birth at a hospital local to them.
Can I choose my OBGYN?
Yes. Most intended parents rely on their surrogates to choose the in-network OB-GYN she is most comfortable with. However, intended parents have the right to seek a second opinion. If intended parents have a specific OB-GYN in mind, we’ll discuss that with you
What is the IVF process like?
Women entering surrogacy are typically placed on a regimen of hormone therapies to aid in preparing the uterus for the embryo transfer and aid in maintaining the pregnancy. Here is more information on the medication: Medical Protocol for Surrogates.
Once your body and the embryos are ready, it is time for your embryo transfer. It is similar to a pap smear, but a catheter is inserted vaginally through the cervix and into the uterus where the embryos are to be placed. Most surrogates will take a period of bed rest lasting between 24 and 72 hours. You’ll stay at a hotel for the night, then can return to your normal life. In about two weeks, if everything goes well, you’ll have a positive pregnancy test. During the course of the next 10 to 12 weeks, you will be weaned from the hormones, and at the end of the first trimester, you will be released back to your own obstetrician for normal treatment.
If I do not get pregnant after my first embryo transfer what are the next steps?
In most cases, there is nothing that the surrogate did, didn’t do, or could have done differently to lead to a different result. Sometimes things just don’t work. In most cases, the exact cause for a failed transfer will remain unclear. However, the success rates of second transfers are generally much higher than those of first-time transfers. Your doctor will work with you and your intended parent(s) to make the changes that are most likely to result in a positive pregnancy on your next cycle. Sometimes, in extreme cases, it may be suggested to try changing one or several variables after several failed transfers. These variables can include introducing the use of a donor egg, choosing to use a different egg donor, introduction (or change of) a sperm donor, or a new surrogate. Take some time to review here, How to React to a Failed Transfer.
Will my intended parent(s) be with me at the embryo transfer?
Depending on where they are located, some intended parents will try to be there for the transfer, but others may be involved virtually. With the advancement of technology, your intended parents can be present without being physically there. If there is any reason for them not being there, you will know either at the matching process or before the actual transfer date. Don’t worry, you are in good hands and can bring a support person with you!
Who will be in the delivery room?
This is something we encourage surrogates and their intended parents to discuss during the matching process. For most intended parents, being in the delivery room for the arrival of their baby is a moment they truly don’t want to miss. We also want to make sure our surrogates are comfortable and have the support they need during the delivery. For a typical vaginal birth, it is common to have both the surrogate’s partner or support person and the intended parents in the room. However, if a C-section is required, most hospitals will only allow one person in the room during delivery. It’s a good idea to plan in the beginning for who would accompany you in the event of a C-section.
How is the delivery handled?
We find most hospitals are great with surrogacy births. In preparation for the birth, we will encourage you and your intended parents to attend a hospital tour either in person or virtually to familiarize yourselves with the facility. We’ll also give your intended parents access to our birth plan creation tool through their online account. This will allow them, with input from you, to create a birth plan to make sure the hospital staff knows there is an upcoming surrogate birth. Virtually all intended parents want to be present at the birth and do their absolute best to be there; however, we all know that babies have a mind of their own and sometimes arrive earlier than expected, so be prepared for anything.
How much will I be paid as a surrogate?
The total Growing Generations surrogate compensation package offers up to $63,500, with additional benefits up to $35,000. This attractive compensation of a surrogate mother makes us one of the highest paying surrogacy agencies around. If you’re an experienced surrogate, talk to us, we may be able to offer you more. You can read more about the benefit packages here: Compensation for Surrogates and Understanding Surrogate Compensation & Pay.
Why does my income matter?
Growing Generations has a commitment to both intended parents and surrogates. By verifying income, GG assures the intended parents that their surrogate is financially stable and pursing the journey for more than financial reasons. For you, the compensation you receive via surrogacy could affect your ability to receive any government assistance.
Do I have to claim my compensation on my taxes?
Neither Growing Generations nor the intended parent(s) will issue a W-2 or 1099. Surrogates are not considered to be employees or independent contractors. We always recommend that you have your surrogacy agreement with your intended parent(s) reviewed by a local tax professional.
How do the payments work?
At Growing Generations, you will have the support of our finance team during your entire surrogacy journey. During the admissions process, you will receive a personalized benefit package and financial handbook to outline all of the payments and benefits you can expect to receive during your journey. Payments are typically made at milestones during the process, such as completing the screening process or beginning medications for the first time. Other payments are received on a regular monthly schedule during surrogacy pregnancy, which our finance team will provide you with once heartbeat(s) have been confirmed so you know exactly when and how much to expect. These payments will be in the form of direct deposit or checks mailed to you by the agency. Read more here: Understanding Surrogate Compensation & Pay and Understanding Surrogacy Reimbursements.
Can I be a surrogate after I’ve had a tubal ligation?
Yes. As a surrogate with Growing Generations, you will be a gestational carrier. This means that a fertilized embryo is implanted into the uterus, and there is no need to use your own eggs. Check out this blog for a more detailed explanation: Surrogacy After a Tubal Ligation.
Do I have to stop breastfeeding before starting the surrogacy process?
You can apply to our program and begin your paperwork before you are done weaning. It is important to Growing Generations that your bond with your child ends naturally. We will not be able to schedule your medical screening until you have finished breastfeeding. The medications you will be required to take as a surrogate can be delivered to your baby via breast milk. You can read more about how breastfeeding plays into your surrogacy journey here: Four Things That Can Delay Your Surrogacy.
Do I need my own health insurance to go through surrogacy?
No, if you do not have an insurance plan, one can be purchased for you.
Why do I have to agree to carry multiples during surrogacy?
We do not require that our Surrogates agree to carry multiples. While most intended parents do not wish to to transfer more than one embryo, some want the option to transfer more than one embryo at a time if the IVF doctor suggests it on transfer day. If intended parents are interested in having twins or transferring multiple embryos, we will be sure to match them with a surrogate who is comfortable with their plan.
Can I use a birthing center (or have a home birth)/Can I use a midwife?
Surrogates in our program are required to give birth in a hospital, preferably with a level 2 NICU on site. We understand that some women prefer to birth their children at home or in birthing centers; however, for the safety of all involved, we plan for hospital deliveries.
Midwives may be used during pregnancy as long as they are working in tandem with an obstetrician, and the OB is present to assist with the delivery.
Can I still go to the gym? Run?
Surrogates are encouraged to maintain a healthy and active lifestyle during the surrogacy pregnancy. That said, strenuous exercise and heavy lifting is advised against. Restrictions on physical activity will vary depending on your doctor’s advice, the requests of the intended parents you are matched with, and the stage of the pregnancy you are in. Please be prepared to modify workouts to accommodate the pregnancy and follow any instructions set forth by your clinic. To read more check out here: Exercising as a Surrogate.
Will intended parent(s) tell me what I can/can’t eat during the surrogacy pregnancy?
Yes and no. It is important that surrogates avoid potentially hazardous food/drinks during pregnancy, such as raw meat/seafood and alcoholic beverages. Furthermore, surrogates are encouraged to maintain a generally healthy diet during pregnancy and try to avoid things like caffeine. Intended parents can make requests or suggestions if they have additional dietary concerns for their surrogate; however, this is usually done during the matching process, so you would have the chance to decide how comfortable you are with what is being asked of you.
Can the intended parent(s) say I can’t have an epidural?
No. Ultimately, if a surrogate wants an epidural, that would be their choice. It’s important that you be as comfortable as possible during the delivery. If you have a strong preference for or against an epidural, we recommend sharing this preference with your case specialist so it can be considered in the matching process. Most intended parents are fine with surrogates choosing to have a medicated delivery. If they do not want this, we can work to find them a surrogate open to an unmedicated delivery. What is an epidural? Find out more information here:: Labor & Delivery Terminology.
Am I required to have a C-section?
No. Whether a surrogate will have a C-section is typically based on two factors: whether they have had a C-section in a previous delivery and whether there is a medical need or preference for a C-section as determined by their doctor. Surrogates who have had a C-section in the past should prepare for the surrogate pregnancy to deliver via C-section as well. We can consider VBAC deliveries on a case-by-case basis, but there is no guarantee that a VBAC will take place. If intended parents prefer a C-section delivery, we would aim to match them with a surrogate who has had one before.
Will I have to pump/breastfeed?
No. During the matching process, we will ask whether you are interested in pumping and will match you with an intended parent that feels the same. Not all intended parents want or need their surrogate to pump. If you are interested in supplying breast milk for your intended parent, you may review how to safely pump and ship at the following link: Surrogacy and Breastmilk.