Single Parent Surrogacy

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The desire to create a family is not unique to coupled adults. Those without a significant other or spouse also feel the call to parenthood and will often need to seek out a surrogate to do this.

Moving through the surrogacy process with Growing Generations as a single intended parent is a process very much like moving through it with a partner. You will still create a profile, progress through screening and matching, select an egg donor, and hopefully, end up with a child.

Following profile acceptance, you will have the opportunity to meet with your surrogate face to face. Use this opportunity to express any concerns you may have and as a chance to get to know your surrogate on a personal level. As you move through this process together, you will form a special team and it’s a good idea to begin building a foundation of trust early.

Many of our single intended parents tell us they wind up forming strong bonds with their surrogates that are personal and sincere. A handful of our surrogates are single parents themselves, and may be especially sympathetic to your desire to create a family.

The one area we tend to notice differences is the matching phase. The good news is that many states have more favorable laws for single intended parents than they do for partnered ones. This means that the pool of potential surrogates will often be larger for a single. The bad news is that, occasionally, it can take longer to find a surrogate who is open to carrying for a single. In the end, your matching timeline will be roughly the same we’d expect to see for a coupled pair.

We understand that as a single intended parent, many people may have additional questions. The first thing you should know is that, overwhelmingly, research has proven that children need just one stable, invested adult in order to thrive. Pursing parenthood as a single does not automatically mean that your child will be at a disadvantage in life.

Growing Generations Co-Owner & Psychologist Dr. Kim Bergman is available to speak with you if you have further questions about raising a child as a single parent. In addition, Growing Generations is proud to have a list of past single intended parents, now successfully navigating single parenting, and are willing to speak with potential single intended parents to offer their insight and advice.

Dr. Kim Bergman

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the upcoming book, Your Future Family: An Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Red Wheel Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. Her two daughters are in college.