Egg Donation FAQ for Intended Parents

Whether you are working with a surrogacy program, or you are unable to achieve pregnancy using your own eggs but can still carry, or you are a gay intended parent, to help you start a family you may be interested in the possibility of using egg donors to help you conceive. Here are some of the most frequently asked questions about egg donation.

How do I select an egg donor?

You can sign up with an agency or fertility clinic that will usually have an online database where you can browse donor profiles.


What happens once I select a donor?

The agency will call the donor to confirm her availability and ask her if she has any blackout dates during which she cannot go in for in-person appointments. The agency will then send you the necessary paperwork to confirm the match.


 What is outside monitoring?

When a donor does not live in the area where your IVF doctor is located, she will need outside monitoring. Outside monitoring usually consists of ultrasounds and lab work which the donor can have done near her home.


Is the donor open to meeting the intended parent?

In most egg donor programs, the donor is considered anonymous. If you are interested in meeting a donor you should contact the agency and they will talk with the donor to discuss the possibility of facilitating a meeting.


If I am interested in a previous donor, will her previous cycle results be disclosed?

Most agencies will disclose information regarding a previous donor’s cycle.


 Are egg donors willing to travel?

Some donors are willing to travel. Most agencies ask this of donors during the application process. You will be able to see the answer to this question within the donor’s profile. If the donor you select needs to travel to your clinic, the agency will call her to confirm the future travel arrangements upon selection.







Dr. Kim Bergman

Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 26 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for over two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national Emeritus board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published “Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood” (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman’s is the author of the upcoming book, Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (Conari Press 2019). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 35 years. Her two daughters are in college.