Hospital Tour Questions for Intended Parents
The 20-week mark is a major distinction in any pregnancy. It marks the halfway point and is the time the largest ultrasound of the pregnancy generally occurs. For these reasons, a large majority of intended parents will choose to visit with their surrogate around this point in the pregnancy.
Apart from the “big” ultrasound, also known as the anatomy ultrasound, you will also be planning a visit to the hospital that your surrogate has chosen for the birth. This can feel both exciting and overwhelming at the same time, as you want to make sure you walk away with all the information you need without forgetting to ask something important.
Sometime early in the second trimester your case specialist will reach out to the hospital social worker to introduce that person to Growing Generations and your case. Your case specialist will begin to prepare the hospital for the upcoming surrogate birth and will be able to answer any preliminary questions the hospital may have. Your case specialist will also schedule a tour for you to take with your surrogate during your visit.
Before the tour you will receive an email document that can be used to help outline and plan your preferences for the delivery. We advise you to look over this document, preferably with your surrogate, prior to the tour. This will allow you to brainstorm on any other potential questions or concerns that you may have for the hospital staff.
During your tour you should be sure to ask about the possibility of obtaining separate rooms for you and your surrogate post-delivery as well as the hospital’s policy on newborn banding. Some hospitals will give identification bands to the surrogate, baby, and one additional adult. Ask if, instead of banding the surrogate, the third band can be given to the second intended parent, or if an additional band can be printed for the additional intended parent.
Another area of major emphasis is the number of people allowed in the laboring room as well as the delivery room/operating room (in the case of a caesarian delivery.) You’ll also want to ask where to park, what food amenities are on site, and if there are any other visitation policies you should be aware of.
You’ll probably forget to ask something or think of more questions after the tour. This is normal and OK. Your case specialist can help you address those continuing questions as they arise. The most important thing to remember is to enjoy the moment. This is a very special time in your journey and you’ll want to be able to enjoy your visit with your surrogate and her family as much as possible during your visit.